Why is the bride smiling on her wedding day? Because she’s given her last blowjob… Reprinted with permission from Un-Guarded.com While that’s meant to be funny, the sad reality is that fucking punchline is sometimes a reality for people. Let me be really clear that I do not endorse, condone, or condemn anyone’s sexual practices or preferences. If what you’re doing works for you, Bravo! Keep doing it and tell me about it if you feel so inclined. This is not supposed to make anybody feel triggered, diminished, or marginalized in any way whatsoever. It’s simply my experience and something […]
Change sucks
I’m back in Portland after being in Tacoma for a few days for my oldest daughter’s graduation, and this whole process has been such a painful and eye-opening endeavor, I felt like I needed to write about it, but I don’t even know where to begin. When I left Portland six weeks ago, I knew that it was the closing of a chapter that I’ve been living for 21 years, a chapter of love, parenthood, trying, and heartbreak, but I didn’t know that it would continue to sneak up on me in the various ways that it has. I was […]
Goodbye
It’s hard to believe it’s been 20 years since I first moved to Portland, Oregon. This city has been my home for over two decades, and it’s hard to imagine saying goodbye. Portland has changed so much in those 20 years, but it still feels like home. As I prepare to leave, I can’t help but reflect on all the experiences I’ve had here. One of the biggest changes I’ve seen in Portland is the food scene. When I first moved here, the city was known for its coffee shops and microbreweries. But over the years, Portland has become a […]
He Surrendered to Win
I’ve spent nearly half my life in Alcoholics Anonymous. I got sober at 23, and now I’m 51 and just celebrated my 28th sobriety anniversary. It’s been the journey of my adult life – one of learning to surrender over and over. I’ve surrendered to get sober and I’ve surrendered to keep the gift of sobriety. Before I got sober, alcohol – and alcoholism – were always a part of my life. I don’t remember much, but the memories I have where alcohol was present are not positive. The disease must have spread through my home even before I was […]